Transformation – Relationship Building

How do we move from one state to another?  How do we move from one situation that’s unhealthy to another and I’m talking to practitioners and anyone else who is interested in this great topic of how do we get from A to B.

How do we make this step change in life that is a fundamental change so that we enter a healthier and fulfilling life?  One aspect for the practitioner may be:  how do I build trust and creditability with patients, clients, such that the atmosphere that I provide has a healing quality to it but not only that but it actually induces change in the right direction for clients.  That’s a question!  What I found very useful in relation to this is that to understand that many of us including our clients have been traumatised.

We develop quite a lot of anxiety about our health and well being and so clients who come to you are probably going to have a certain amount of anxiety.  If the anxiety is very high, it is very difficult for clients to take your advice because it becomes over whelming.  And if the anxiety is too low well then people probably wouldn’t come to you anyway because there is no motivation in that regard.  So really what we want to do is bring our clients anxiety level down to a reasonable level  so that they can listen and consider options.

And how can the practitioner do this?  Well there is a few very simple things that I found that help.  The first thing is structure.  If the practitioner provides a predictable structure during the healing session where the client feels safe and has predictability so the client knows what is going to happen during the session.  It is useful to say to the client well here is how we will be operating today.  So what I would say is, first of all is that I am going to speak with you for about 10-15 minutes and on the basis of that I’m going to conduct a treatment and at the end of the treatment then I will give feedback to you on what I’ve found and what’s suggestions I’m making for you.

Now that sounds very simple I know but it gives people a sense of you know what you are doing and you have structure.

The second thing is in relation to trust, and that is how you develop trust with someone that you have just met or that you don’t know very well.

Well one of the key aspects of this is to do with control and influence.  When a person feels that they have some control and influence over their situation they are more inclined to trust.

If as practitioners we take over and are an authoritative  figure completely take over in the treatment, and of course there are many health practitioners who do this and they can be quite successful but, in order to build trust and cooperation in the field of multi-dimensional medicine and in complimentary medicine it is necessary to engage the client in their own treatment, in their own journey back to health, not to take over.  So when a client feels yes I do have an influence, yes I do have control, yes my opinions are listened to, yes my experiences of my illness are listened to and not dismissed this gives the client a feeling of security and at least under those circumstances they may be willing to hand over control to you on some aspects of their treatment or perhaps a lot of aspects but nevertheless we always remember that this is a cooperative healer to client relationship and that when the client feels they have control, they are then more likely to trust.

These are just a few ideas on this question and I hope to continue this series in relation to how do we bring about transformation in our clients and in ourselves also

Thank you for listening.  God bless for now.